THE QUINBY ATTITUDE TRIANGLE BACK
 
MODIFYING   FORCED   CHOICE
 
 
 
   
   
   
   
 
 
   
THE QUINBY ATTITUDE TRIANGLE
 So, being a “good student”, I then hurry toward FEELING, running away from
 THINKING. This, of course, produces some not inconsiderable discomfort
 (read “scared-as-hell"), because I like THINKING, I am good at it, and that
 FEELINGS were not supported or encouraged or nourished in my family,
 as a child.

    (dangerous-don’t go there-Oh, damn, I have to, I want to be a therapist”)

 So I make a choice closer to “FEEL”, to experiment with how feelings can
 add value to my life, now that I am grown-up and I am told that I need a new
 balance about feelings / thinking.
                                                      - BUT - 

           Finding “FEELINGS” in a relationship is scary
                Having fun with someone who “FEELS” is scary
                     Identifying problems about “FEELINGS” is hard to do
                          Solving problems about “FEELINGS” is even harder
                               “Having” FEELINGS, not thinking about them, is scary
                                    Learning about FEELINGS is feeling not thinking

They say I SHOULD find value in paying attention to my feelings. 

 So now I place an “X” where I might find a personal balance point about how
 much THINKING should run my life and how much FEELING should, or at
 least, could run my life. (They [professional mental health people] said . . . )