5 WAYS THAT NOT OK CHILD DECREASE VALUE +/- VALUES BACK

   

 REACTIVE - Knee-jerk, thoughtless, impulsive. “Bratty”, “Sulky”,
 “Me-first”, feelings bigger than the event, “Nice” or “Nasty” to
 extort what they want. Temper

 ALWAYS-NEVER - Nothing succeeds like excess ! Getting
 even with power by the power play of accusing with the dreaded
 “You Always - You-Never” power play guilt trip.

 WHINE-SNIVEL - Children learn how to instill guilt and how to
 wear people down. People often give them their own way just to
 get rid of them and their negativity - thereby reinforcing and
 training them in the whine-snivel method.

 OVER-COMPLY - Falling all over themselves to do everything
 that they are told, down to mindless irrelevant unnecessary
 detail. “But you told me to do a good job !”

 OVER-REBEL - Will not take yes or no for an answer. Often
 doing the opposite of what is requested just to prove their
 “independence” (but it is the illusion of independence -- no
 thinking of their own -- see reactive above)